I am the kind of mom who savors every moment of my kids’ childhood, knowing as sure as I look at my seven-year-old son that these moments are fleeting. That’s why I love Valentine’s Day and the opportunity to stop and tell my children (and yes, my husband, too!) all the marvelous things about them that I adore, and celebrate our love as loudly and as joyfully as I can. Because these four people are my heart, and I’m not afraid to show it.
Like when JDubbs and Em go to the Father-Daughter Valentine’s Day dance. The look on his face as he hugs her tells me that he’s not letting these moments go by unappreciated, either. He knows this love is gift.
And the next day, when I got to take these two goofballs to apres ski, just us three (which hardly ever happens anymore), I just had to stop to appreciate the moment…and take a silly selfie.
And of course like that night, after the kids had gone to bed, when JDubbs and I pulled out our bag o’ hearts from Valentine’s past, love notes from us to the kids telling them individually and collectively how very loved they are, how proud they make us, and what makes them special. I know it looks like a serious undertaking, but saving them every year just means we add a few more and by the time these kids are teenagers, our Curtains of Love are going to be more like a forest!
Valentine’s morning is outdone only by Christmas as the day I cannot wait for them to wake up and see their happiness. Little H, who doesn’t remember seeing them before, gasped at the sight of all that love. The big kids squealed with delight and I could hear them exclaiming, “I forgot about this!” and “Look at this one!” as they read them to each other and pointed out especially favorite memories. This will always be worth it, every time.
Valentine’s Day may be a super-commercialized holiday with cards at $5 a pop, but the spirit behind it, to let the people you know hear how much you love them, is very much who I am and want to be as a parent, friend, wife, family. My heart is happier with days like this in it.
(thanks to Little H’s dear Miss Kelly for this lovely little Valentine for her as well)